5 Things You Never Say or Do In The First Message (guy version)

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Margaret Thatcher once said, “If you want something said, ask a man; if you want something done, ask a woman.” The following is a list of things that you should never ask (or say to) a woman, no matter how badly you want it “done”.

Ex-Girlfriend Mentions
Whenever guys talk about their ex-girlfriends, it’s never a good thing. It’s likely that your male friends don’t want to hear about her, not to mention a girl you’ve just started talking to.

Sex Talk
Some girls like sexting and writing dirty messages while others don’t. A good rule of thumb is to get to know the girl first before you start getting hot and heavy with the private messages.

Nude Selfies
Remember “Carlos Danger”? That guy is the poster child for why you should wait before sending nude photos of yourself to any girl. Not only did it cost him his political career, but those nude selfies eventually ended up all over the internet.

Sports Talk
Even if you think the girl is into sports, you might want to wait a while before you start making it the subject of your messages. Otherwise, you’re likely to come off sounding like that couch potato that does nothing but eat and drink beer on Sundays. Not that there’s anything wrong with that, but you might want to wait a while before you show her your lazy, sports fanatic side.

Crude Language
If you use a lot of bad words while talking to someone you hardly know, they might start thinking that you have a poor command of the English language. Always be yourself, but if you tend to use a lot of bad words, cut it back.

5 Things You Never Say or Do In The First Message (girl version)

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Let’s face it, compared to men, women usually have better etiquette. Especially when it comes to making first impressions. But that doesn’t mean that they aren’t capable of committing the same kind of social faux pas that are usually reserved for horny guys looking to score. That’s why we’ve come up with this short list of things you want to stay away from during your first communications with any guy.

Nude Pics
Your first message can be sexy or even provocative, but a nude pic is far too forward. Don’t get ahead of yourself.

Who wants to hear about your drama during the first date, not to mention the first contact? Keep the drama for your Mama.

Ex-Boyfriend Mentions
Whether it’s someone you could start dating eventually or even just a friend, the last thing a guy wants to hear about is an ex-boyfriend. Save those heartbreak stories for your girlfriends.

Party Pics
Were you drunk during a Halloween party? Or, maybe you were just passed out while a friend took pictures of you in a sexy outfit. Either way, chances are that the pictures aren’t flattering. Keep them off the web and away from private messages.

Did you get a new piece of bling or a new BMW? Chances are that nobody else wants to hear about it. Have some humility and act like you’ve been there before. There’s nothing worse than a sore winner.