How To Make A Man Fall In Love

cupid shot with arrowOnce you’ve met the man you know you want — you really want — it’s time to solidify it. Proceed with care, though. A ham-handed attempt to be the ‘perfect’ girl for him and make him love you will be as transparent (and ineffective) as that cheesy lace negligee you spent way too much on.

 

Don’t be Delusional

You can’t make a man fall in love with you, and truth be told, you really don’t want to. Yes, you’re smitten with each other, but the love you seek is the kind that happens naturally. It’s that kind of love that can only come via a true bond: a connection that develops automatically because you’re just right for each other. You certainly can, however, take steps to create an atmosphere that will nurture rather than hinder the bond of being in love.

 

Be Happy

No one wants to be around a sad or angry girl. You have to start out happy with yourself before you can make someone else happy. If your career is in shambles, work hard to get out of that rut. If you have a problem with drugs or alcohol, get real, professional support. If you’re unhappy with the way you look, get your hair done, join a gym, or surround yourself with hip people from whom you can learn some fashion tips.

 

skunks flirting blushingBe Mysterious

No matter how much he says he does, he doesn’t want to know everything about you — or your day. Don’t make him suspicious or jealous, and don’t disappear for long periods of time, but do be allusive sometimes. Don’t text, call and visit him incessantly; always be the one who ends the conversation before he gets bored.

 

Be Interesting

Read, watch, and then read some more. Read about sports, watch Star Trek and Star Wars, and learn how to shoot a three-pointer without concern for your acrylics. As much as women do, men looking to settle down look for a partner who will be their equal. Men want to solve problems for you, but will be impressed that you are independent enough to fix something yourself or can hang in a conversation about something other than your new Louboutins.

 

Be Patient

Falling in love is rarely instantaneous. And even if it is, the dangerous speed of a whirlwind romance is bound to create tension. Once you both realize you are falling in love, your brains will reel from the stress of all this new pressure and you’ll get into arguments over nothing. Both of your fight or flight instincts will kick in — make sure you’re being patient, fair and understanding enough to recognize this and keep him from fleeing.

 

Is Your Significant Other Cheating On You?

You have a sneaking suspicion something is up.They’re acting different and things don’t seem the same between you. If you are wondering if your boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating on you look no further. Here are 4 key tips to help you figure ot if your boyfriend or girlfriend is dancing dirty with another partner.

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The Fountain Of Sex Has Run Dry

If you and your significant other haven’t had sex in months or its been so long that you can’t remember, then this is a major warning sign. When people are sexually satisfied with another they often lose the desire to initiate sexual contact with their partner.

Test This Theory: Try and initiate sexual contact and if they make excuses or completely blow you off, then you know something is up. If you try again numerous times and they just aren’t “feelin’ it”, then most likely they’re getting their fix somewhere else.

 

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They Always Have Their Phone On Them

All of the sudden your partner won’t go anywhere without their phone- and never says who they are constantly texting. They start keeping their cell on them or turned over screen down when its laying out. If you do suspect something ask who it is . If that fails check their phone and read their text messages. A person’s cell phone is like their secret diary. If your significant other has their phone attached to them, even in the bathroom, then they are hiding something or have a serious cellular addiction.

Test This Theory : Ask to look at their phone and see what they say. If they truly have nothing to hide, they’ll give it to you, or leave it out, unattached to them.

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They Are Always Working Late

The oldest one in the book. Its tried and true. If your significant other keeps canceling dates on you or continuously comes home late then this is a red flag. Make sure they are really at work or where they tell you they are. You do not want to be the last to know that John or Jane left work 6 hours ago.

Test This Theory : Call to say hello or stop by with a surprise. If they aren’t cheating they will be happy to hear from /see you. If they are cheating … they won’t be there.

 

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Listen To Your Gut

Its a horrible feeling but in all honesty, your gut will tell you the truth. If all of the above things are happening, then most likely, you’re being cheated. The truth will always come out so trust your gut and decide whether you want to be there when it does.

Test This Theory : If you find yourself making excuses and rationalizing then your gut is telling you its wrong.

 

Even If they aren’t cheating who wants to be in a loveless, non-communicative, neglectful relationship that makes you feel uneasy anyways?