5 Oufits to Wear to Catch Her Attention

Most guys don’t care that much about fashion, and most women forgive them for this, but a fashionably-challenged guy just isn’t attractive. There a few tips you can follow to keep your wardrobe to a minimum, with little fuss or cost. Get a few staple pieces and replenish them as necessary. If you’re still experiencing a sartorial conundrum, or you care at all how you look, spend a few minutes with a good men’s fashion magazine. Flip through the pages and absorb even a tenth of the concepts espoused, and you’ll automatically be more in tune to what’s appealing to women.

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Skinnier Jeans

It’s 2014, and unfortunately for everything in your closet, styles have changed drastically in the last few years. Loose or “relaxed” fit now looks sloppy. No one’s saying it should look like you borrowed your girlfriend’s jeggings, but jeans need to be slim cut, no matter how big you are.

Flat-Front Fitted Pants

That’s right, even your work pants should be slim fit. Make sure they aren’t too tight or too short. Pleated front pants should be cut up and used to wax your car. If you’re new to fashion, white pants are generally only to be worn by Colonel Sanders, and while you’re at it, steer clear of bright colors and pastels as well. Tailored-looking clothing tells a woman you care (at least a tiny bit) about looking good.

Fitted Collared Shirts

Get at least one fitted blue collared shirt and a black one. They can be worn with jeans and still tell a woman you have a job. These will be your go-to shirts for most occasions. Stay away from obnoxious patterns and colors as, too often, they don’t make you stand out to women, they make you look silly.

V-neck Sweater

Plain V-necks look slightly preppy and nerdy-cute, two attributes that signal to women you’ve struck a comfortable balance between comfort and style. Save for sentimental sweats, give all your baggy workout clothes to charity, lest you be tempted to wear them out in public.

Actual Shoes

No one’s saying you can’t rock the Converse and suit look. It’s absolutely acceptable, especially if you can wear it to work. However, sneakers are unacceptable for dinner or a club night. In fact, it can be downright insulting to a woman if you show up for a date in dingy running shoes. A good rule of thumb is, if you’re going out after dark, dress as if you’re on trial for your life. Look respectable but not garish. You are, in fact, being judged by a jury of your peers.

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How to Pick Up a Guy With A Girlfriend

hand holdPicking up a guy with a girlfriend doesn’t have to be the sleazy endeavor it seems to be at first. A lot of guys are stuck in dead-end relationships, or are simply not dating up to their potential. When you do get inspired to come on to a guy with a girlfriend, enjoy the power and control it affords you in an often chaotic world — and keep a few of the following things in mind.

Screw Karma
If you have any feelings of guilt about what you’re about to do, leave your inhibitions at the door, or leave him alone. At the end of the day, no one is making him do anything he doesn’t want to do, and no one can blame you if you don’t blame yourself. If you go in guilty, he’ll sense it, and feel it too.

Be Hotter than Her
The revenge screw is one of the fastest ways to pick up a guy with a girlfriend. However, guys know that if they’re going to stray from the cow at home, it better be one tasty milkshake, so you need to be at the top of your game. After all, they’ve got their relationship on the line here, so they are going to want to trade up, not down.

Turn Up the Charm
You might not be used to having to try very hard to pick up guys, but if he has a girlfriend, you’ve got a challenge on your hands. Be charming, interesting and kind. Sweep him off his feet; challenge him and make him want to capture you. Successfully turn the tables, and he’ll be too busy trying to conquer you to worry about what he’s doing.

Don’t Chat About the GF
Keep the focus on the exciting sexy things he wants to do with you instead of the looming GF problem. Don’t inspire him to think too much by comparing the two of you, or let him cultivate feelings of guilt. The more you remind him he has a girlfriend, the harder your hook up is going to be.

Be Discrete
If you’re in public setting, be considerate that he might be trying to hook up with you on the sly, but feels uncomfortable asking that of you outright. Help him out. Slip him your number very discreetly for a later meet-up, or create a rouse disguising why you’re giving him the digits, such as work-related business. If you’re at the point of trying to leave together, pick a place outside of the venue where no one will see you waiting for him. Tell him you’re going to walk outside and wait for him there for 10 or even 15 minutes. If no one sees you leaving together, you just gave him plausible deniability if word ever got back to his girlfriend.

10 Signs You’re Dating A Jerk

jerk cartoonSo you just entered into a relationship and you’re over the moon, but some nagging doubts are creeping up somewhere in the back of your mind. Love goggles can be quite dark, so pay attention to the warning signs that you’re dating a jerk, and you’ll be less likely to get hurt later on.


1.He Makes You Pay For Everything: Women’s lib tends to dictate that if we want to be treated as equals, we should split the check every time. But what woman doesn’t like him to at least offer to pay the majority of the time?


2.He Flirts with Others in Front of You: For most women, this is a down-right deal breaker. If you forgive him for it once or twice, expect a third.

3.He Tries to Change You: If he’s not happy with you, then why is he dating you? He didn’t have a problem with any way that you behaved on your first dates. Once you’ve slept with him or you’ve settled into a relationship, however, he wants you to be a different person. Red flag!

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4.He Projects His Insecurities on You: If he makes you feel fat but you and your closest friends all agree you don’t have even a small issue with weight, he’s projecting. Lots of people try to make other people feel miserable because they aren’t happy with themselves.

 5.He Talks About Threesomes… a Lot: Sure there’s nothing wrong with joking about bringing another girl into the mix even if you have expressed that you’re not into it, but if he mentions threesomes obsessively when you’ve been clear on the subject, he’s obviously not giving up the fantasy regardless of your feelings.

6.He Doesn’t Care About Your Needs in Bed: Jerk move Numero Uno is consistently getting off without much regard for how good a time you’re having. No one says you both have to have earth-shattering orgasms every single time, but if you’re constantly finding yourself at the low end of the satisfaction spectrum, it’s time to change up.

7.He Can’t Get Over His Ex: Your guy’s interaction with his ex-girlfriend might not be a big deal to you. For example, if they have a kid together, you can’t expect there to be absolutely nothing between them. However, if he’s constantly meeting up with an ex and knows it bothers you, he’s not being very considerate of how you feel.

8.He’s Obsessed With Porn And/Or Video Games: There really can only be two people in your relationship. So if you feel like you’re sharing your boyfriend with anyone named Ryu, Misty, Link or Jenna, then he needs to spend more time getting to a next level with your relationship, not with his controller in his hand. (Inside tip: Lara Croft counts as both a video game and a porn obsession.)


 9.He Ignores You: If you feel like you can’t get your boyfriend to respond to your calls and text messages in a timely fashion, you’ll eventually feel like you’re dating his smartphone more than him.


10.Your Friends and Family Hate Him: Your besties aren’t wearing your rose-colored heart-shaped love goggles, so take cues from them if you’re not sure. After all, how many times has it happened that you realize you have been dating a jerk, and not one of your friends and family disliked him all along?smartphone more than him.


Tips for Date Night At Home

cuddle dateDate night at home (i.e. dinner and streaming movies) doesn’t seem like the most exciting proposal, but time, energy and financial constraints often make nights in a necessity. Staying in doesn’t have to be a bore, though. The bottom line is: get creative. Try new interesting additions to the usual dinner and a movie repertoire, and you’re sure to enjoy yourself even more than if you’d gone out.


Make Your Own Movie

Try a twist on movie night. Spend a few hours after dinner crafting a hilarious short film plot line. Make sure you actually type it up, or write it out if necessary. Figure out how many ‘roles’ with ‘costume’ changes each of you can pull off from scene to scene without really doing any video editing or leaving the house. Familiarize yourself with your lines, get out the camera and “Action!”


Do it in The Dark

Recent years have seen a burgeoning trend of upscale restaurants where diners provoke their other senses by dining blindfolded. Try it at home and avoid the embarrassment of making a mess in a fancy restaurant. On your way home, each of you stop off at different markets which carry finer foods, and pick up an array of unusual fares that you wouldn’t normally have around the house. Be careful to avoid anything you would both find gross, however. Think more along the lines of pomegranate; less like cow’s tongue. The goal is to surprise and delight. Take turns blindfolding each other and feeding each other new and different ingredients and discover new likes and dislikes at the same time.


Try a Little Cosplay

Choose a movie that lends to a theme, and break out the craft supplies. Together, you can help each other create theme props and activities to match your film. One example could be cardboard katana to reenact the samurai fight scenes in “Kill Bill,” or paper Guy Fawkes masks and bed sheet capes for a showing of “V for Vendetta.” It might feel cheesy as all get out at first, but it will guarantee a few laughs — at least from your friends the next day.

Top 10 Things Women Want From You

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Guys are fairly simple. They want a woman who is attractive, sexy, nice and interesting.  Women seem to have different criteria in what they look for in a man. To help straighten this out, here are the top 10 things women want from you.





1. Confidence

You’ve probably seen guys who don’t seem to have much in the way of looks or career success, who nevertheless have a way with the women. This is what confidence can do. When you’re comfortable with yourself, and confident of what you have to offer, women love it.


2. Intelligence

Women value intelligence in a man. That doesn’t mean you need to be Einstein, but in general, if you are smart and well-informed, women like that. If you don’t know much about a topic, don’t fake it. Try asking questions, or leading the conversation to a new topic.


3. Good Looks

Women care about the way a man looks, almost as much as men care about how women look. Try to keep yourself in shape,  Pay attention to grooming. Ditch the frayed shorts and put on some clean, attractive clothes. She will be happier to be around you when you’re looking good.


4. Independence

Women don’t want a role where they have to take care of a man. They want to be your lover, not your mother, and they like it when you can take care of yourself. When you can do your laundry, cook your dinner, and pay your bills, that’s a good sign.


5. Positive Outlook

When you’re with somebody who has an optimistic, positive outlook on life, it makes the time you spend together much more pleasant. Women don’t want to be with a guy who is overly negative, pessimistic, or cynical. That’s a downer, and it’s just not fun.


6. Good Communication

Women like a man who can carry on a real conversation with them. That means expressing your feelings, and also listening attentively to them when they talk about their thoughts, hopes, and desires. Good communication shows that you care about her. It can bring the two of you closer, and that’s what she wants.


7. A Sense Of Humor

Women love it when a guy can make them laugh. They’re not necessarily looking for the class clown, or somebody who’s the life of every party, but they want somebody who can make them laugh at times. If you can laugh at yourself too, that’s a plus.


8. Passion

Women want to see that you’re passionate – both about them and about other things. If you’re passionate about saving endangered tigers, it shows that you’re a caring person with a heart of gold. When you’re passionate about her, it shows her that she’s desired, and leads to a lot of fun.


9. Social Skills

The stereotype is that women love the strong, silent type, but that’s not often true in real life.  In fact, women usually love it when a guy is socially adept enough to function well with her friends, at a family event, or at her office Christmas party.


10. Ambition

Women like ambitious guys, at least up to a point. It’s not just about the money that goes along with career success. It’s about the fact that you set goals and achieve them, which is an attractive quality. Just don’t let your work focus take over to the extent that you ignore the woman in your life.



Top 10 Things Men Want From You

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Men have needs and wants, too. If you give him some of these  things (and it’s not hard), then your relationship could be happier than ever. Here are the top 10 things men want from you.



1. Listen To Him

Everybody in the world, men and women, want to be heard and recognized as a person. The key is to actively listen to him, understanding what he’s saying, and learning a little bit more about him. Empathetic listening shows that you truly care about him.


2. Stay In Shape

You want him to stay in shape and healthy, right? Well, he wants the same thing from you. When you make the effort to work out, eat healthy, and stay in shape it makes you more attractive to him. It also makes it more likely he will do the same.


3. Sexy Lingerie

This can be quite a turn on for men. He may be into you even without the this, but when you have a sexy set of lacy lingerie, it will turn things up a notch. Go ahead and splurge on a nice set. He’s sure to appreciate it, though he may not want to see you in it for long.


4. Stripping For Him

Men are highly visual, and there are few things they’d like to see more than you putting on a private strip show for them. Every once in awhile, if you put on some music and do a little strip tease act, he will react enthusiastically.


5. Give Him A Gift

Any excuse will do – Christmas, birthday, anniversary, or the second Friday in the month. Just try to think of a gift that he’ll really love, not one that would be good for him. Giving him the latest tech gadget he wants is very cool, but a new set of weights might not go over so well.


6. Playing A Part

A lot of guys would like to add some spice to their love life by indulging in a little role playing.  When you broach the subject, ask him what part he’d like you to play. He may want to go shopping with you for the costume.


7. Positive Words

Everybody wants to hear good things about themselves. They want to know that you think they’re smart, sexy, funny, and good-looking. This boosts their self esteem and their confidence, and makes them feel better about themselves and about you.


8. Experimenting In Bed

Don’t be afraid to try new things. You may be shy about it, but try to stay open to new positions, or using toys. Communication, trust, and love make this work, and he’s sure to enjoy it.


9. Home Cooking

You know what they say about the way to a man’s heart, and there’s certainly some truth to this. Surprise him now and then by making him a home cooked meal. He’ll be impressed with your talents, and happy that you made the effort.


10. Be More Vocal In Bed

He wants to know that what he’s doing is really making you excited, so go ahead and tell him. When you let him know that you love what he’s doing, that gets him more excited, too. He’ll feel more confident, and he’ll also know more about how to make you ecstatic.



Top 5 Ways to Catch a Man’s Attention

It’s not everyday that a woman will actually try to get a man’s attention. In fact, most of the time they’re trying their best to get men to leave them alone. However, there are those rare occasions when a woman is interested in a man and they’ll try a few tricks to get a guy to notice them.


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Short Dresses/Skirts

A girl with great legs is sure to catch a man’s attention with a short skirt. Add a pair of high heels to that equation and you’re sure to turn some heads.


High Heels

Whether you call them pumps, heels or “F” me shoes, to most men, there’s nothing sexier than a woman in high heels.


The Right Makeup

Some men like that deep red lipstick and heavy eyeshadow look. Others like the all natural look. But, chances are that if you’re a woman who sticks to one look, the opposite (taken to a certain extreme) might just turn him on.


A Nice Sports Car

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It’s typical for a man to try and catch a woman’s attention with a nice car, but a woman with a sweet ride can be the ultimate “man trap”.


It might seem weird to some women but smiling at a guy might be the easiest way to catch his attention. As soon as he sees that you’re acknowledging him, he’ll be putty in your hands.

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How to Catch a Girl’s Attention

ZZ Top can’t be wrong when they say, “every girl’s crazy for a sharp dressed man.” But that’s just one of the criteria it takes to get a woman’s attention. So, if you’ve been trying to get a girl to notice you, here are some tips you can use to help catch her eye.


happy couple his smileA Positive Attitude

When it comes down to it, you can probably catch a woman’s attention with a bad attitude but more often than not, just getting noticed is about as far as you’ll get by being a jerk. A handsome guy with a positive attitude will always get further with a girl than a handsome guy with a bad attitude.


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Some girls go for that unkempt, roughneck look, but the glam rock days are over and if you’re trying to make a first impression, the “rough around the edges” look probably isn’t the best way to go. Nowadays, ladies go for the Channing Tatum look over the Axl Rose look every time.


nice shoesNice Shoes

They say that the first thing a woman notices about a man’s wardrobe is his shoes. That’s because shoes get worn out and scuffed. They’re not as easily cleaned as the rest of a man’s wardrobe. Having nice shoes means having attention to detail.






couple smell goodSmelling Good

Smelling good doesn’t necessarily mean dumping a bunch of cologne on yourself. If a woman is able to smell you from across the room, it doesn’t have the same impact as if she notices how great you smell when she gets close to you.

You Are Scaring Her Away

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Some guys seem to have plenty of looks, confidence, and sex appeal, but have trouble getting a relationship to last more than a couple of weeks.

What’s the problem?

If you’re in this category, it could be because you’re making one or more of these five critical mistakes that tend to make women bolt.  If you recognize yourself on this list, it’s a sign that you may be scaring her away.



trash ex1.  Talking About Your Ex. Whether you’re talking about what a wonderful woman she was, or how you’re so relieved to be rid of the bitch from hell, talking about your ex is a huge turn-off for most women. First of all, if you’re still talking about her, then you’re not really over her. Secondly, it can sound whiny, needy, or vindictive, none of which are attractive character traits. And lastly, what woman wants to go out on a date and talk about some other woman? Clue – none of them. Talk about the woman you’re with, not the one who’s out of your life.


2.  Making It All About Sex. Of course, you’re interested in having sex when you’re dating a girl.  Chances are that she’s pretty interested in it, too. The problem comes in when you try to rush straight to that point before she’s ready for it. If you start putting on the pressure to hit the bedroom when she’s resisting, it may backfire. Also, as the relationship continues, remember that it needs to be about more than the sex. No woman wants a guy who just calls her up when he wants to get it on, and ignores her the rest of the time. If this is your style, then don’t be surprised when you’re dumped again – you scared off another one.


3.  Being Cheap. Women are definitely more career-minded and independent these days than ever before. But if you expect her to pay for her meal on your first date, or even the second, you may be scaring her off. It makes it look like you’re stingy and cheap, and that’s not what women want. Even if she’s quite independent, she wants a gentleman who knows how to take care of a lady. If she brings it up and offers to pay, that’s OK, but you shouldn’t be the one asking her to do so.


4.  Being Too Possessive. Remember, this woman you’re dating has a life of her own. She had friends and coworkers who she spent time with before she even met you. Don’t get uptight if she continues to go out with those people – they’re an important part of her life, and you can’t change that. If you try to lay down the law and keep her all to yourself, then you may cause an opposite reaction and send her running.



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5.  Seeming Insincere. Yes, it’s a good thing to compliment a woman on how beautiful and sexy she looks, but you need to do it in a sincere and believable way. Instead of using the same lines she’s heard a million times before (“I love your smile” or “you have such beautiful eyes”), try to come up with something more personal. If you trot out the same lines as everybody else, she may walk away thinking “just another jerk”. If you compliment her on something that few people 

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What Not To Wear On A First Date

First impressions are huge, and how you look on your first date can make all the difference as to whether you have a second. Of course, your sparkling conversation and dry wit make an impact, but people do place a lot of importance on looks. To help you put your best foot forward, here are some tips for men and women about what not to wear on a first date.


Avoid Overly Revealing Clothing.

tight gold shortFor women, don’t put too much of yourself on display. This means avoiding short shorts and tiny skirts, and being careful how much cleavage you’re showing. The last thing you want is for your new date to feel awkward as he tries to avert his eyes. It’s OK to have bare arms or a moderate skirt (preferably one or the other, not both). Keeping more of yourself private makes you mysterious and alluring.

For men, unless you’re in the South, where shorts and flip flops are standard attire all year, avoid these on a first date. Skip the sleeveless shirts, too. Nobody wants to see chicken legs or flabby arms, so keep them covered for now. Wear long pants, a shirt with sleeves, and reasonable shoes. Make an effort to look good and you’re more likely to get a second date.



Avoid Going Overboard

kissy faceDon’t go too far in any direction. For women, take it easy on the makeup so it doesn’t look overdone, and you don’t need to spend hours on your hair. If you met him at the supermarket, you don’t want to show up for the date looking like somebody else. Avoid looking like a caricature, and show off the person you really are to best advantage.

On the men’s side, go for the clean shaven look. Stubble may look good on movie stars, but it’s not the best look for most guys. A beard or mustache is fine, but make sure it’s neatly trimmed. Avoid any messy or unkempt hair or clothing, and be careful with the styling gel, because you don’t to look greasy.


bad shirt disney vintageAvoid Age-Inappropriate Clothing

You don’t need to dress older than you are, in some frumpy dress your Aunt Agatha would have worn.  On the other hand, don’t dress in the latest high school fashions if you’re decades older than that – it can make you look ridiculous or desperate. Select something that’s flattering that fits for your general age range. Stay away from the mickey mouse club or Disney anything. Its not cute and even if it is “cute” is not your goal on a date.

 For men, avoid boyish clothing, such as loud hats or those saggy pants, and stick with a manly look. You also don’t need to overdo it and dress like the senior citizen crowd. Dress within your age range, and look respectable and attractive. You can’t go wrong with classic styles.


Avoid Clothes That Don’t Fit The Situation

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If you’re going for a hike together, skip the strappy high heels. For a fancy restaurant, your old sweatshirt is not appropriate. At a theme park, you don’t need a pin stripe suit. Showing up in the wrong attire can make you look ridiculous – the last thing you want on a first date. Find out where you’re going, and plan your attire accordingly.