5 Tips For Dating Someone At Work

office romanceHaving a fling with or even dating a co-worker offers many a challenge beyond the ‘How to Score’ problem. Dating someone with whom you work presents the problem of a potential break-up and the troublesome aftermath. Don’t sell the idea short, but proceed with caution, the risks are just the beginning of great rewards.

 

1. Keep it Secret, for Now

As tempted as you are to tell your bros or girls that you’ve bagged the office hottie (or are trying to), don’t let the kitty out of the bag until you both decide it’s in your mutual best interest to do so. Don’t forget, your careers are now part of your dating equation.

 

2. Don’t Lose Them Respect

If word gets out a girl is sleeping with a co-worker, she can lose a lot of office cred, which could end up hurting her career. Guys who hunt at work could be seen as dogs by female co-workers. Make sure when you do tell the rest of the office, it’s done with decorum, not by getting caught making out in a dark restaurant booth on your lunch hours.

 

3. Take a Break

If you’re smitten with someone at work, you’ll want to spend all your time with them by, say, coinciding your smoke breaks or getting coffee when they do. But once you seal the deal and a relationship begins, slow down the inter-office interaction. They are going to have to see you all day, and all night, and you don’t want them to burn out and tire of you.

 

4. Beware the Married Co-worker

An affair is still an affair, and they are particularly easy to get into with co-workers whom you see day after day and feel comfortable with. If you’ve moved on to a physical relationship with your ‘work wife,’ or ‘work husband’ (they’re married to someone else but carrying on a relationship with you) he or she might be leading you on just to have a hot affair.

5. Getting Bossy in Bed

If an office romance has begun between you and your boss, be careful — it could be nothing more than an illicit affair in disguise. If things go bad, they will rank above you at work, and it’s possible you’ll find yourself both alone and unemployed.

5 Foods Guys Shouldn’t Order on a First Date

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Getting to second (or perhaps even first) base should mean jumping through a few flaming hoops on your first date. You’ve picked out the perfect ‘business-casual’ outfit, quaffed your hair with expensive pomade to look like you don’t try, and cleaned out your car for the first time in weeks. Don’t blow it with ignorance of a few things NOT to order on a first date:

 

For Her

The most important thing not to order is FOR her. This archaic tradition should be considered as passé as a chaperone and — luckily for most Millennials — it is. However, remnants of the habit still linger. Often guys have been to a hotspot before and try to impress their date by adamantly suggesting a particular option. Don’t forget, she’s at least a little on the defensive on a first date, she shouldn’t have to fend off your forward food propositions as well.

 

Aphrodisiacs

While oysters, figs, pomegranate, and chocolate-covered strawberries are widely regarded as sexy additions to a meal with a girl to whom you’re attracted, ordering these foods on the first date could easily be regarded as presumptuous — and therefore disrespectful. Even if you’re hoping to get some, operate as if you’re not trying to seduce her right off the bat.

 

Don’t Be a Sloppy Joe

Never mind that chicken wings and ribs mean you’re at a restaurant that’s probably not nice enough to take a girl on a first date — you’re there, and eyeing something slathered in buffalo sauce. A good rule is: Don’t order anything which requires a bib, or comes with a basket of wet wipes. If that’s generally all you eat, do a quick YouTube search on table manners before you go on your next date. If you can follow those rules with what you order (i.e. which fork to use and how), you’re in the clear.

 

Reeking Haddock

Bean-laden chili dogs aren’t the only foul that will be called on you in the dating game. If you want to get your play on, skip the garlic, oysters, shrimp, salsa and other foods that will break your breath.

 

Salad

If you appear more concerned with your own body than hers, she won’t be too keen on that second date. A guy who is too body conscious is a turn off. Ordering a dinner salad (and nothing else) also tells her you aren’t really willing to cut lose in order to have fun with her tonight. Besides, you’re going to need some protein to make it through to the wee hours.

Tips For Meeting His Parents

meeting her parentsAs much as he has to impress your parents, you need to impress his. His mother could be even more protective of her little boy as your father is of you, so bear in mind that he’s not the only one who has to break out the top hat and cane for a little obligatory performance. Keep a few major points in mind and you’re sure to leave them applauding.

 

Bring a Gift

A gift will always be appreciated. It shows you made the effort to fit into their home as a member of the family. Make sure it will be a welcome gift, though. His parents could be non-drinkers, or keep Kosher, so discuss the appropriateness of the gift with your guy in advance.

 

Don’t be a ‘Gold-Digger’

If you’re unemployed and you know you’re going to meet them in a matter of months, start doing some volunteer work in your city. The question “what do you do?” will inevitably come up. If you’re between jobs, you can at least say you’re doing some pro bono work with a youth group. And who knows, you might like the work and it could actually lead to a real job.

 

Dress Appropriately

Extreme conservatism in dress is your only option for meeting a guy’s parents. Don’t wear a lot of makeup, a skirt that falls far above the knee, or stripper pumps. A sequin halter top, Daisy Duke cut-offs and Lucite heels tell his parents one thing: their son is dating a slut.

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Don’t Freak Out

Be prepared if you walk in the door and his family is all over you like a pack of wolves on a wounded rabbit. Don’t get overwhelmed and become emotional: nothing looks worse than not being strong enough to hold your own. Act naturally, stay calm, and roll with the punches.

 

Bow Out Gracefully

If the situation is really stressful, make an appropriately speedy exit. Have one drink, if necessary. Do not, however, get drunk. Don’t be rude and walk out in the middle of dinner, but don’t stay too long at the party, running the risk of having one too many drinks, saying something outrageous, and ruining all your hard work.

 

Tips For Meeting Her Parents

dates parentsIf you’re serious enough about a girl to meet her parents, be serious enough to do it right: for many, especially girls, not getting along with her parents can be an instant deal-breaker, whether it’s her or her ‘rents that cause the relationship to come to a complete halt.

 

You Don’t Have a Choice, So Enjoy It

Just about every girl has a mother, or a father, some other parental figure (or even all of the above) whom you’re going to have to meet and impressive. You’ll have to satisfy their fears that you are right for her. If she has someone like this in her life, quit trying to avoid it, and jump enthusiastically into it.

 

Always Bring a Gift

It might seem archaic or cliché, but many cultures around the world actually are insulted by a suitor showing up to a first meeting empty-handed. Do some research. If her father has been clean and sober for three years, don’t show up with a bottle of wine. If her mother is allergic to everything, don’t bring flowers. A very nice inoffensive art book is always a safe choice.

 

Be Completely Objective

We can all pick our friends, but we can’t pick our parents. Cut her some slack if you’re not a fan of her fam. Keep in mind, if they don’t appeal to you, there’s a very good chance you’re not their top choice for their daughter either.

 

Daddy’s Little Girl

When it comes to whom they are dating, parents are almost always going to be more protective of a daughter than a son. Girls in general have a lot more to lose: they’re more sensitive emotionally, and there’s the chance that an unwanted pregnancy can drastically change her life. Make sure you come off as loving and responsible. No one wants some guy playing it fast and loose with their little girl.

 

Getting Along Isn’t Optional

Do every conceivable thing you can during your first meeting to be agreeable with her folks. If that means shutting up when they say something preposterous, so be it. After all, smiling and nodding doesn’t have to mean you agree with them, just that you acknowledge their opinion on the matter. If you’re unlucky and they’re racists, anti-Semites, terrorists or junkies don’t let them bait you into discussion. Deal with their outrageousness outside of their home and, later, steer your relationship with their daughter accordingly.

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5 Tips for Dating a Single Mom

woman kissing childFinding out a woman who has been the subject of your affection is a mom can be daunting if not overwhelming. A lot of guys experience a flight response. But likely the information will leave a guy with a desire to give it a try, however, it will also leave you with a lot of questions. Once you’ve decided to embark on this new journey with her and a kid, you’ll have a little bit of homework.

1:Do the Research
Go online and find the answers to all of those unusual questions that will inevitably pop up — no matter how guilty they make you feel. Questions about new situations are always natural, so embrace the truth. Will sex be better, worse, or more often unavailable? Will I be expected to change certain of my bad habits because I might be a bad influence on children? Can I?

2:Curb Your Stress
She is going to pick up on how you’re dealing with the fact that she has kids. If you want it to be ‘no big deal,’ then make sure it isn’t. Feigning comfort with the situation won’t fly, so ensure you spend some time settling the details in your head before you interact with her again. Remind yourself that whatever you think your day-to-day problems are, she likely has more important ones to consider.

3:Meet the Kids
Be careful about how you introduce yourself once the big day of your first meeting approaches. Showing up with toys or candy might seem disingenuous or give the appearance of trying too hard. Don’t forget that, especially with older kids, in their minds, you are trying to replacing their father — at least for their mother.

4:Embrace the Benefits
A single mom has obviously been through a challenging relationship before, and has probably learned a thing or two about traversing the male-female courting ritual. She might be less likely to start a spat over something petty, thus avoiding a three day argument. Or you may find that you couldn’t fathom getting jealous over her flirting shamelessly in a bar with other guys. Whatever the benefit to her experience in relationships is, take it to heart. Learn from her, and make sure she knows you appreciate those qualities.

5:Get Ready for Change
Whether you want to admit it or not, getting intimate with a single mom is going to affect your groove. Instant Kids means you’re going to have to end a night or two each week early because the sitter needs to leave. You’ll find yourself locking up liquor, evidence of smoking and dirty movies. At least once in a while, you’re going to have to change that spontaneous Vegas getaway to a well-planned weekend at Disney. The changes don’t have to be daunting, however. The bachelor life was never meant to last forever. So embrace the newfound inspiration to see life through a child’s — you might find you feel like a kid again.

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5 Oufits to Wear to Catch Her Attention

Most guys don’t care that much about fashion, and most women forgive them for this, but a fashionably-challenged guy just isn’t attractive. There a few tips you can follow to keep your wardrobe to a minimum, with little fuss or cost. Get a few staple pieces and replenish them as necessary. If you’re still experiencing a sartorial conundrum, or you care at all how you look, spend a few minutes with a good men’s fashion magazine. Flip through the pages and absorb even a tenth of the concepts espoused, and you’ll automatically be more in tune to what’s appealing to women.

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Skinnier Jeans

It’s 2014, and unfortunately for everything in your closet, styles have changed drastically in the last few years. Loose or “relaxed” fit now looks sloppy. No one’s saying it should look like you borrowed your girlfriend’s jeggings, but jeans need to be slim cut, no matter how big you are.

Flat-Front Fitted Pants

That’s right, even your work pants should be slim fit. Make sure they aren’t too tight or too short. Pleated front pants should be cut up and used to wax your car. If you’re new to fashion, white pants are generally only to be worn by Colonel Sanders, and while you’re at it, steer clear of bright colors and pastels as well. Tailored-looking clothing tells a woman you care (at least a tiny bit) about looking good.

Fitted Collared Shirts

Get at least one fitted blue collared shirt and a black one. They can be worn with jeans and still tell a woman you have a job. These will be your go-to shirts for most occasions. Stay away from obnoxious patterns and colors as, too often, they don’t make you stand out to women, they make you look silly.

V-neck Sweater

Plain V-necks look slightly preppy and nerdy-cute, two attributes that signal to women you’ve struck a comfortable balance between comfort and style. Save for sentimental sweats, give all your baggy workout clothes to charity, lest you be tempted to wear them out in public.

Actual Shoes

No one’s saying you can’t rock the Converse and suit look. It’s absolutely acceptable, especially if you can wear it to work. However, sneakers are unacceptable for dinner or a club night. In fact, it can be downright insulting to a woman if you show up for a date in dingy running shoes. A good rule of thumb is, if you’re going out after dark, dress as if you’re on trial for your life. Look respectable but not garish. You are, in fact, being judged by a jury of your peers.

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How to Pick Up a Guy With A Girlfriend

hand holdPicking up a guy with a girlfriend doesn’t have to be the sleazy endeavor it seems to be at first. A lot of guys are stuck in dead-end relationships, or are simply not dating up to their potential. When you do get inspired to come on to a guy with a girlfriend, enjoy the power and control it affords you in an often chaotic world — and keep a few of the following things in mind.

Screw Karma
If you have any feelings of guilt about what you’re about to do, leave your inhibitions at the door, or leave him alone. At the end of the day, no one is making him do anything he doesn’t want to do, and no one can blame you if you don’t blame yourself. If you go in guilty, he’ll sense it, and feel it too.

Be Hotter than Her
The revenge screw is one of the fastest ways to pick up a guy with a girlfriend. However, guys know that if they’re going to stray from the cow at home, it better be one tasty milkshake, so you need to be at the top of your game. After all, they’ve got their relationship on the line here, so they are going to want to trade up, not down.

Turn Up the Charm
You might not be used to having to try very hard to pick up guys, but if he has a girlfriend, you’ve got a challenge on your hands. Be charming, interesting and kind. Sweep him off his feet; challenge him and make him want to capture you. Successfully turn the tables, and he’ll be too busy trying to conquer you to worry about what he’s doing.

Don’t Chat About the GF
Keep the focus on the exciting sexy things he wants to do with you instead of the looming GF problem. Don’t inspire him to think too much by comparing the two of you, or let him cultivate feelings of guilt. The more you remind him he has a girlfriend, the harder your hook up is going to be.

Be Discrete
If you’re in public setting, be considerate that he might be trying to hook up with you on the sly, but feels uncomfortable asking that of you outright. Help him out. Slip him your number very discreetly for a later meet-up, or create a rouse disguising why you’re giving him the digits, such as work-related business. If you’re at the point of trying to leave together, pick a place outside of the venue where no one will see you waiting for him. Tell him you’re going to walk outside and wait for him there for 10 or even 15 minutes. If no one sees you leaving together, you just gave him plausible deniability if word ever got back to his girlfriend.

10 Signs You’re Dating A Jerk

jerk cartoonSo you just entered into a relationship and you’re over the moon, but some nagging doubts are creeping up somewhere in the back of your mind. Love goggles can be quite dark, so pay attention to the warning signs that you’re dating a jerk, and you’ll be less likely to get hurt later on.

 

1.He Makes You Pay For Everything: Women’s lib tends to dictate that if we want to be treated as equals, we should split the check every time. But what woman doesn’t like him to at least offer to pay the majority of the time?

 

2.He Flirts with Others in Front of You: For most women, this is a down-right deal breaker. If you forgive him for it once or twice, expect a third.

3.He Tries to Change You: If he’s not happy with you, then why is he dating you? He didn’t have a problem with any way that you behaved on your first dates. Once you’ve slept with him or you’ve settled into a relationship, however, he wants you to be a different person. Red flag!

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4.He Projects His Insecurities on You: If he makes you feel fat but you and your closest friends all agree you don’t have even a small issue with weight, he’s projecting. Lots of people try to make other people feel miserable because they aren’t happy with themselves.

 5.He Talks About Threesomes… a Lot: Sure there’s nothing wrong with joking about bringing another girl into the mix even if you have expressed that you’re not into it, but if he mentions threesomes obsessively when you’ve been clear on the subject, he’s obviously not giving up the fantasy regardless of your feelings.

6.He Doesn’t Care About Your Needs in Bed: Jerk move Numero Uno is consistently getting off without much regard for how good a time you’re having. No one says you both have to have earth-shattering orgasms every single time, but if you’re constantly finding yourself at the low end of the satisfaction spectrum, it’s time to change up.

7.He Can’t Get Over His Ex: Your guy’s interaction with his ex-girlfriend might not be a big deal to you. For example, if they have a kid together, you can’t expect there to be absolutely nothing between them. However, if he’s constantly meeting up with an ex and knows it bothers you, he’s not being very considerate of how you feel.

8.He’s Obsessed With Porn And/Or Video Games: There really can only be two people in your relationship. So if you feel like you’re sharing your boyfriend with anyone named Ryu, Misty, Link or Jenna, then he needs to spend more time getting to a next level with your relationship, not with his controller in his hand. (Inside tip: Lara Croft counts as both a video game and a porn obsession.)

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 9.He Ignores You: If you feel like you can’t get your boyfriend to respond to your calls and text messages in a timely fashion, you’ll eventually feel like you’re dating his smartphone more than him.

 

10.Your Friends and Family Hate Him: Your besties aren’t wearing your rose-colored heart-shaped love goggles, so take cues from them if you’re not sure. After all, how many times has it happened that you realize you have been dating a jerk, and not one of your friends and family disliked him all along?smartphone more than him.

 

Tips for Date Night At Home

cuddle dateDate night at home (i.e. dinner and streaming movies) doesn’t seem like the most exciting proposal, but time, energy and financial constraints often make nights in a necessity. Staying in doesn’t have to be a bore, though. The bottom line is: get creative. Try new interesting additions to the usual dinner and a movie repertoire, and you’re sure to enjoy yourself even more than if you’d gone out.

 

Make Your Own Movie

Try a twist on movie night. Spend a few hours after dinner crafting a hilarious short film plot line. Make sure you actually type it up, or write it out if necessary. Figure out how many ‘roles’ with ‘costume’ changes each of you can pull off from scene to scene without really doing any video editing or leaving the house. Familiarize yourself with your lines, get out the camera and “Action!”

 

Do it in The Dark

Recent years have seen a burgeoning trend of upscale restaurants where diners provoke their other senses by dining blindfolded. Try it at home and avoid the embarrassment of making a mess in a fancy restaurant. On your way home, each of you stop off at different markets which carry finer foods, and pick up an array of unusual fares that you wouldn’t normally have around the house. Be careful to avoid anything you would both find gross, however. Think more along the lines of pomegranate; less like cow’s tongue. The goal is to surprise and delight. Take turns blindfolding each other and feeding each other new and different ingredients and discover new likes and dislikes at the same time.

 

Try a Little Cosplay

Choose a movie that lends to a theme, and break out the craft supplies. Together, you can help each other create theme props and activities to match your film. One example could be cardboard katana to reenact the samurai fight scenes in “Kill Bill,” or paper Guy Fawkes masks and bed sheet capes for a showing of “V for Vendetta.” It might feel cheesy as all get out at first, but it will guarantee a few laughs — at least from your friends the next day.

Top 10 Things Women Want From You

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Guys are fairly simple. They want a woman who is attractive, sexy, nice and interesting.  Women seem to have different criteria in what they look for in a man. To help straighten this out, here are the top 10 things women want from you.

 

 

 

 

1. Confidence

You’ve probably seen guys who don’t seem to have much in the way of looks or career success, who nevertheless have a way with the women. This is what confidence can do. When you’re comfortable with yourself, and confident of what you have to offer, women love it.

 

2. Intelligence

Women value intelligence in a man. That doesn’t mean you need to be Einstein, but in general, if you are smart and well-informed, women like that. If you don’t know much about a topic, don’t fake it. Try asking questions, or leading the conversation to a new topic.

 

3. Good Looks

Women care about the way a man looks, almost as much as men care about how women look. Try to keep yourself in shape,  Pay attention to grooming. Ditch the frayed shorts and put on some clean, attractive clothes. She will be happier to be around you when you’re looking good.

 

4. Independence

Women don’t want a role where they have to take care of a man. They want to be your lover, not your mother, and they like it when you can take care of yourself. When you can do your laundry, cook your dinner, and pay your bills, that’s a good sign.

 

5. Positive Outlook

When you’re with somebody who has an optimistic, positive outlook on life, it makes the time you spend together much more pleasant. Women don’t want to be with a guy who is overly negative, pessimistic, or cynical. That’s a downer, and it’s just not fun.

 

6. Good Communication

Women like a man who can carry on a real conversation with them. That means expressing your feelings, and also listening attentively to them when they talk about their thoughts, hopes, and desires. Good communication shows that you care about her. It can bring the two of you closer, and that’s what she wants.

 

7. A Sense Of Humor

Women love it when a guy can make them laugh. They’re not necessarily looking for the class clown, or somebody who’s the life of every party, but they want somebody who can make them laugh at times. If you can laugh at yourself too, that’s a plus.

 

8. Passion

Women want to see that you’re passionate – both about them and about other things. If you’re passionate about saving endangered tigers, it shows that you’re a caring person with a heart of gold. When you’re passionate about her, it shows her that she’s desired, and leads to a lot of fun.

 

9. Social Skills

The stereotype is that women love the strong, silent type, but that’s not often true in real life.  In fact, women usually love it when a guy is socially adept enough to function well with her friends, at a family event, or at her office Christmas party.

 

10. Ambition

Women like ambitious guys, at least up to a point. It’s not just about the money that goes along with career success. It’s about the fact that you set goals and achieve them, which is an attractive quality. Just don’t let your work focus take over to the extent that you ignore the woman in your life.