5 Tips for Meeting Someone at the Gym

flirting at the gymThe gym can be one of the best places to meet someone: not only are you sure they care about their appearance and health as much as you do, but workout gears usually ensures you get a little sneak peek at the physical goods before you get too far down the dating road. Tread lightly, however. Some gym people are strictly there for a work out.

 

Don’t be ‘That Guy’

The worst guy at the gym is the one who’s there to pick up women. Although there are plenty of girls who want to be picked up while working out, it’s a mistake to assume most women want to be hit on in that situation. There’s a certain vulnerability to huffing through an hour treadmill jog in tight and revealing spandex, sans make-up, so don’t go on a balls out attack or you’ll only get defense in return.

 

Work on Your Rep[s]

Make sure you’re a healthy presence in the gym. If you’re going to offer to ‘spot’ someone on the bench press, you need to be two things: obviously physically fit enough to do so, and trusted by the gym staff and other gym-users. The last thing you want is for her to notice nervous glances or an eye roll from other gym folk when you offer to help.

 

Make Friends

One of the best ice breakers is the simple act of knowing someone’s name or even occupation before you meet them. It shows that you liked them enough to invest the time in asking about them. Just don’t get too stalker-y by pumping everyone in the gym for information or you’ll really creep them out. Becoming friends with the gym staff and patrons will help in your future conquests.

 

Practice Good Hygiene

If that workout god or goddess on whom you have had your eye sees you walk away from a machine without wiping it down, you’re sunk. Still worse, the last thing you want is the reputation for being ‘that smelly guy.’ Sweating at the gym is attractive; being stinky, well, just stinks.

 

Get Game

“‘Can You Spot Me?’ ‘Do You Know How This Machine Works?’ and ‘I Like Your Outfit’” are all legitimate ice breakers, but don’t rely on them. The best first impressions will happen naturally, and if she’s not interested in meeting people at the gym, the MP3 player likely won’t come off the whole time, so take the hint and don’t force it.

 

5 Tips For Dating Someone At Work

office romanceHaving a fling with or even dating a co-worker offers many a challenge beyond the ‘How to Score’ problem. Dating someone with whom you work presents the problem of a potential break-up and the troublesome aftermath. Don’t sell the idea short, but proceed with caution, the risks are just the beginning of great rewards.

 

1. Keep it Secret, for Now

As tempted as you are to tell your bros or girls that you’ve bagged the office hottie (or are trying to), don’t let the kitty out of the bag until you both decide it’s in your mutual best interest to do so. Don’t forget, your careers are now part of your dating equation.

 

2. Don’t Lose Them Respect

If word gets out a girl is sleeping with a co-worker, she can lose a lot of office cred, which could end up hurting her career. Guys who hunt at work could be seen as dogs by female co-workers. Make sure when you do tell the rest of the office, it’s done with decorum, not by getting caught making out in a dark restaurant booth on your lunch hours.

 

3. Take a Break

If you’re smitten with someone at work, you’ll want to spend all your time with them by, say, coinciding your smoke breaks or getting coffee when they do. But once you seal the deal and a relationship begins, slow down the inter-office interaction. They are going to have to see you all day, and all night, and you don’t want them to burn out and tire of you.

 

4. Beware the Married Co-worker

An affair is still an affair, and they are particularly easy to get into with co-workers whom you see day after day and feel comfortable with. If you’ve moved on to a physical relationship with your ‘work wife,’ or ‘work husband’ (they’re married to someone else but carrying on a relationship with you) he or she might be leading you on just to have a hot affair.

5. Getting Bossy in Bed

If an office romance has begun between you and your boss, be careful — it could be nothing more than an illicit affair in disguise. If things go bad, they will rank above you at work, and it’s possible you’ll find yourself both alone and unemployed.

5 Foods Guys Shouldn’t Order on a First Date

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Getting to second (or perhaps even first) base should mean jumping through a few flaming hoops on your first date. You’ve picked out the perfect ‘business-casual’ outfit, quaffed your hair with expensive pomade to look like you don’t try, and cleaned out your car for the first time in weeks. Don’t blow it with ignorance of a few things NOT to order on a first date:

 

For Her

The most important thing not to order is FOR her. This archaic tradition should be considered as passé as a chaperone and — luckily for most Millennials — it is. However, remnants of the habit still linger. Often guys have been to a hotspot before and try to impress their date by adamantly suggesting a particular option. Don’t forget, she’s at least a little on the defensive on a first date, she shouldn’t have to fend off your forward food propositions as well.

 

Aphrodisiacs

While oysters, figs, pomegranate, and chocolate-covered strawberries are widely regarded as sexy additions to a meal with a girl to whom you’re attracted, ordering these foods on the first date could easily be regarded as presumptuous — and therefore disrespectful. Even if you’re hoping to get some, operate as if you’re not trying to seduce her right off the bat.

 

Don’t Be a Sloppy Joe

Never mind that chicken wings and ribs mean you’re at a restaurant that’s probably not nice enough to take a girl on a first date — you’re there, and eyeing something slathered in buffalo sauce. A good rule is: Don’t order anything which requires a bib, or comes with a basket of wet wipes. If that’s generally all you eat, do a quick YouTube search on table manners before you go on your next date. If you can follow those rules with what you order (i.e. which fork to use and how), you’re in the clear.

 

Reeking Haddock

Bean-laden chili dogs aren’t the only foul that will be called on you in the dating game. If you want to get your play on, skip the garlic, oysters, shrimp, salsa and other foods that will break your breath.

 

Salad

If you appear more concerned with your own body than hers, she won’t be too keen on that second date. A guy who is too body conscious is a turn off. Ordering a dinner salad (and nothing else) also tells her you aren’t really willing to cut lose in order to have fun with her tonight. Besides, you’re going to need some protein to make it through to the wee hours.

Tips For Meeting Her Parents

dates parentsIf you’re serious enough about a girl to meet her parents, be serious enough to do it right: for many, especially girls, not getting along with her parents can be an instant deal-breaker, whether it’s her or her ‘rents that cause the relationship to come to a complete halt.

 

You Don’t Have a Choice, So Enjoy It

Just about every girl has a mother, or a father, some other parental figure (or even all of the above) whom you’re going to have to meet and impressive. You’ll have to satisfy their fears that you are right for her. If she has someone like this in her life, quit trying to avoid it, and jump enthusiastically into it.

 

Always Bring a Gift

It might seem archaic or cliché, but many cultures around the world actually are insulted by a suitor showing up to a first meeting empty-handed. Do some research. If her father has been clean and sober for three years, don’t show up with a bottle of wine. If her mother is allergic to everything, don’t bring flowers. A very nice inoffensive art book is always a safe choice.

 

Be Completely Objective

We can all pick our friends, but we can’t pick our parents. Cut her some slack if you’re not a fan of her fam. Keep in mind, if they don’t appeal to you, there’s a very good chance you’re not their top choice for their daughter either.

 

Daddy’s Little Girl

When it comes to whom they are dating, parents are almost always going to be more protective of a daughter than a son. Girls in general have a lot more to lose: they’re more sensitive emotionally, and there’s the chance that an unwanted pregnancy can drastically change her life. Make sure you come off as loving and responsible. No one wants some guy playing it fast and loose with their little girl.

 

Getting Along Isn’t Optional

Do every conceivable thing you can during your first meeting to be agreeable with her folks. If that means shutting up when they say something preposterous, so be it. After all, smiling and nodding doesn’t have to mean you agree with them, just that you acknowledge their opinion on the matter. If you’re unlucky and they’re racists, anti-Semites, terrorists or junkies don’t let them bait you into discussion. Deal with their outrageousness outside of their home and, later, steer your relationship with their daughter accordingly.

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5 Tips for Dating a Single Mom

woman kissing childFinding out a woman who has been the subject of your affection is a mom can be daunting if not overwhelming. A lot of guys experience a flight response. But likely the information will leave a guy with a desire to give it a try, however, it will also leave you with a lot of questions. Once you’ve decided to embark on this new journey with her and a kid, you’ll have a little bit of homework.

1:Do the Research
Go online and find the answers to all of those unusual questions that will inevitably pop up — no matter how guilty they make you feel. Questions about new situations are always natural, so embrace the truth. Will sex be better, worse, or more often unavailable? Will I be expected to change certain of my bad habits because I might be a bad influence on children? Can I?

2:Curb Your Stress
She is going to pick up on how you’re dealing with the fact that she has kids. If you want it to be ‘no big deal,’ then make sure it isn’t. Feigning comfort with the situation won’t fly, so ensure you spend some time settling the details in your head before you interact with her again. Remind yourself that whatever you think your day-to-day problems are, she likely has more important ones to consider.

3:Meet the Kids
Be careful about how you introduce yourself once the big day of your first meeting approaches. Showing up with toys or candy might seem disingenuous or give the appearance of trying too hard. Don’t forget that, especially with older kids, in their minds, you are trying to replacing their father — at least for their mother.

4:Embrace the Benefits
A single mom has obviously been through a challenging relationship before, and has probably learned a thing or two about traversing the male-female courting ritual. She might be less likely to start a spat over something petty, thus avoiding a three day argument. Or you may find that you couldn’t fathom getting jealous over her flirting shamelessly in a bar with other guys. Whatever the benefit to her experience in relationships is, take it to heart. Learn from her, and make sure she knows you appreciate those qualities.

5:Get Ready for Change
Whether you want to admit it or not, getting intimate with a single mom is going to affect your groove. Instant Kids means you’re going to have to end a night or two each week early because the sitter needs to leave. You’ll find yourself locking up liquor, evidence of smoking and dirty movies. At least once in a while, you’re going to have to change that spontaneous Vegas getaway to a well-planned weekend at Disney. The changes don’t have to be daunting, however. The bachelor life was never meant to last forever. So embrace the newfound inspiration to see life through a child’s — you might find you feel like a kid again.

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5 Oufits to Wear to Catch Her Attention

Most guys don’t care that much about fashion, and most women forgive them for this, but a fashionably-challenged guy just isn’t attractive. There a few tips you can follow to keep your wardrobe to a minimum, with little fuss or cost. Get a few staple pieces and replenish them as necessary. If you’re still experiencing a sartorial conundrum, or you care at all how you look, spend a few minutes with a good men’s fashion magazine. Flip through the pages and absorb even a tenth of the concepts espoused, and you’ll automatically be more in tune to what’s appealing to women.

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Skinnier Jeans

It’s 2014, and unfortunately for everything in your closet, styles have changed drastically in the last few years. Loose or “relaxed” fit now looks sloppy. No one’s saying it should look like you borrowed your girlfriend’s jeggings, but jeans need to be slim cut, no matter how big you are.

Flat-Front Fitted Pants

That’s right, even your work pants should be slim fit. Make sure they aren’t too tight or too short. Pleated front pants should be cut up and used to wax your car. If you’re new to fashion, white pants are generally only to be worn by Colonel Sanders, and while you’re at it, steer clear of bright colors and pastels as well. Tailored-looking clothing tells a woman you care (at least a tiny bit) about looking good.

Fitted Collared Shirts

Get at least one fitted blue collared shirt and a black one. They can be worn with jeans and still tell a woman you have a job. These will be your go-to shirts for most occasions. Stay away from obnoxious patterns and colors as, too often, they don’t make you stand out to women, they make you look silly.

V-neck Sweater

Plain V-necks look slightly preppy and nerdy-cute, two attributes that signal to women you’ve struck a comfortable balance between comfort and style. Save for sentimental sweats, give all your baggy workout clothes to charity, lest you be tempted to wear them out in public.

Actual Shoes

No one’s saying you can’t rock the Converse and suit look. It’s absolutely acceptable, especially if you can wear it to work. However, sneakers are unacceptable for dinner or a club night. In fact, it can be downright insulting to a woman if you show up for a date in dingy running shoes. A good rule of thumb is, if you’re going out after dark, dress as if you’re on trial for your life. Look respectable but not garish. You are, in fact, being judged by a jury of your peers.

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Tips for Date Night At Home

cuddle dateDate night at home (i.e. dinner and streaming movies) doesn’t seem like the most exciting proposal, but time, energy and financial constraints often make nights in a necessity. Staying in doesn’t have to be a bore, though. The bottom line is: get creative. Try new interesting additions to the usual dinner and a movie repertoire, and you’re sure to enjoy yourself even more than if you’d gone out.

 

Make Your Own Movie

Try a twist on movie night. Spend a few hours after dinner crafting a hilarious short film plot line. Make sure you actually type it up, or write it out if necessary. Figure out how many ‘roles’ with ‘costume’ changes each of you can pull off from scene to scene without really doing any video editing or leaving the house. Familiarize yourself with your lines, get out the camera and “Action!”

 

Do it in The Dark

Recent years have seen a burgeoning trend of upscale restaurants where diners provoke their other senses by dining blindfolded. Try it at home and avoid the embarrassment of making a mess in a fancy restaurant. On your way home, each of you stop off at different markets which carry finer foods, and pick up an array of unusual fares that you wouldn’t normally have around the house. Be careful to avoid anything you would both find gross, however. Think more along the lines of pomegranate; less like cow’s tongue. The goal is to surprise and delight. Take turns blindfolding each other and feeding each other new and different ingredients and discover new likes and dislikes at the same time.

 

Try a Little Cosplay

Choose a movie that lends to a theme, and break out the craft supplies. Together, you can help each other create theme props and activities to match your film. One example could be cardboard katana to reenact the samurai fight scenes in “Kill Bill,” or paper Guy Fawkes masks and bed sheet capes for a showing of “V for Vendetta.” It might feel cheesy as all get out at first, but it will guarantee a few laughs — at least from your friends the next day.

Top 10 Things Women Want From You

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Guys are fairly simple. They want a woman who is attractive, sexy, nice and interesting.  Women seem to have different criteria in what they look for in a man. To help straighten this out, here are the top 10 things women want from you.

 

 

 

 

1. Confidence

You’ve probably seen guys who don’t seem to have much in the way of looks or career success, who nevertheless have a way with the women. This is what confidence can do. When you’re comfortable with yourself, and confident of what you have to offer, women love it.

 

2. Intelligence

Women value intelligence in a man. That doesn’t mean you need to be Einstein, but in general, if you are smart and well-informed, women like that. If you don’t know much about a topic, don’t fake it. Try asking questions, or leading the conversation to a new topic.

 

3. Good Looks

Women care about the way a man looks, almost as much as men care about how women look. Try to keep yourself in shape,  Pay attention to grooming. Ditch the frayed shorts and put on some clean, attractive clothes. She will be happier to be around you when you’re looking good.

 

4. Independence

Women don’t want a role where they have to take care of a man. They want to be your lover, not your mother, and they like it when you can take care of yourself. When you can do your laundry, cook your dinner, and pay your bills, that’s a good sign.

 

5. Positive Outlook

When you’re with somebody who has an optimistic, positive outlook on life, it makes the time you spend together much more pleasant. Women don’t want to be with a guy who is overly negative, pessimistic, or cynical. That’s a downer, and it’s just not fun.

 

6. Good Communication

Women like a man who can carry on a real conversation with them. That means expressing your feelings, and also listening attentively to them when they talk about their thoughts, hopes, and desires. Good communication shows that you care about her. It can bring the two of you closer, and that’s what she wants.

 

7. A Sense Of Humor

Women love it when a guy can make them laugh. They’re not necessarily looking for the class clown, or somebody who’s the life of every party, but they want somebody who can make them laugh at times. If you can laugh at yourself too, that’s a plus.

 

8. Passion

Women want to see that you’re passionate – both about them and about other things. If you’re passionate about saving endangered tigers, it shows that you’re a caring person with a heart of gold. When you’re passionate about her, it shows her that she’s desired, and leads to a lot of fun.

 

9. Social Skills

The stereotype is that women love the strong, silent type, but that’s not often true in real life.  In fact, women usually love it when a guy is socially adept enough to function well with her friends, at a family event, or at her office Christmas party.

 

10. Ambition

Women like ambitious guys, at least up to a point. It’s not just about the money that goes along with career success. It’s about the fact that you set goals and achieve them, which is an attractive quality. Just don’t let your work focus take over to the extent that you ignore the woman in your life.

 

 

How to Catch a Girl’s Attention

ZZ Top can’t be wrong when they say, “every girl’s crazy for a sharp dressed man.” But that’s just one of the criteria it takes to get a woman’s attention. So, if you’ve been trying to get a girl to notice you, here are some tips you can use to help catch her eye.

 

happy couple his smileA Positive Attitude

When it comes down to it, you can probably catch a woman’s attention with a bad attitude but more often than not, just getting noticed is about as far as you’ll get by being a jerk. A handsome guy with a positive attitude will always get further with a girl than a handsome guy with a bad attitude.

 

fresh haircutFresh Haircut

Some girls go for that unkempt, roughneck look, but the glam rock days are over and if you’re trying to make a first impression, the “rough around the edges” look probably isn’t the best way to go. Nowadays, ladies go for the Channing Tatum look over the Axl Rose look every time.

 

nice shoesNice Shoes

They say that the first thing a woman notices about a man’s wardrobe is his shoes. That’s because shoes get worn out and scuffed. They’re not as easily cleaned as the rest of a man’s wardrobe. Having nice shoes means having attention to detail.

 

 

 

 

 

couple smell goodSmelling Good

Smelling good doesn’t necessarily mean dumping a bunch of cologne on yourself. If a woman is able to smell you from across the room, it doesn’t have the same impact as if she notices how great you smell when she gets close to you.

How To Choose Your Beverage Glass

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