Best Ways to Meet Someone in a New City

couple flirting in group settingThere are a lot of ways to meet people in a new city — take rear-ending them while confused by unfamiliar traffic patterns, for example. However, if the person you want to meet wouldn’t be intermittently screaming obscenities at you and phoning everyone from their insurance company to the National Guard, there are a few ways take an active role in meeting new people in your new city.

Facebook

Although Facebook was designed to connect people who already know each other, and blindly ‘friending’ people will get you blocked from using the software, the platform can be quite useful in meeting new people. It might feel a little stalker-ish, but if you have even one or two friends in your new town, stroll through their friend list and, when you come across someone who gets you all twitterpated, ask your friend to make an introduction.

There’s An App for That

There are a slew of apps out there designed to get people together based on mutual interests, such as learning a new language, an affinity for a particular literary genre, or classic cars. MeetUp, Foursquare’s new app Swarm, Gather and PeopleHunt are just a few.

Join a Real Club

Groups in cyberspace are convenient, but don’t forget about clubs outside of the virtual world. By actually meeting people face to face, you get the instant benefit of gauging physical attraction without worrying your next date is only “Facebook Hot.”

Social Lubrication

The oldest (and arguably best) way to meet someone is at the pub. Alcohol gets people talking, just be sure not to get too buzzed or you might find yourself stung by your own beer goggles.

Get Out There

Find church or synagogue functions if you’re religious, choose the trendiest local coffeehouse if you’re bookish, or go out of your way to a busier dog park if you have a four-legged roommate. When you see someone who strikes your fancy, don’t be too shy to approach them about your new-found shared interest.

 ASK

Make an effort to ask people in stores and restaurants what people do for “fun”. Make a profile on an online dating community Fling.me and send some messages out to see if anyone has had any luck with one way or another specific to your area . Chances are you’ll find a Fling online before you even make it out the door.